Just the other day, plus-blogger Gabi Gregg (aka GabiFresh) laid things out on Twitter the other day dropping truth bombs on how difficult it is to dress as a plus-size lady. As she posted her tweets, there was one that really resonated with me and it's the one I screen-capped above.
I have always been highly self-conscious of what I wear, how I present myself and how I look to others - largely due in part to the fact that I am a fat, plus size woman. Currently, I stand at 5 foot 2 inches and wear between a size 18 to 20 - depending on the day, the brand, the make and the fabric.
When I was younger, I felt resigned to the fact that I would have to wear matronly as fuck clothes, that didn't look or feel proper on me and bunched in weird places and basically made me feel I should be hiding my body and my visibility as a fat person to the world.
Thanks to the Internet and honestly, places like Instagram or Tumblr, I have been able to break that thought or feeling of being stuck in those un-fit clothes and have discovered fatshion bloggers (across the world) who have inspired my style each and everyday. They also gave me tips, tricks and just general knowledge on how to be a visable fat + fashionable lady.
Since I have become more confident in my look and confident in my body, people always stop to ask me "where did you get that" or "I love your glasses". It's absolutely flattering and I love sharing. So below as my top looks from 2015 with some tips and tricks on where they were purchased and how you can start to feel more confident in your looks.
Tip #1) Don't be afraid to wear a bold print
One of the biggest questions I get asked is about prints: how do I mix them, how do I find prints that look good on my body, etc. The biggest thing I can suggest is: try them on and see what works for you. Just because some fashion magazine says you shouldn't be wearing polka-dots doesn't mean that should stop you in anyway. You'll end up finding something that might become a statement piece for you.
Tip #2) Don't be afraid to try something different
I have always really admired the street wear styles of Nadia Aboulson and Rhiannon Hennessy of the brand Flossy Lox. It was because of them, I felt inspired to try something different with my style and incorporate a bit more street wear. This can be as simple as mixing and match things from your wardrobe to incorporate the look or buying a piece you know you can incorporate into other looks. Don't be afraid to take fashion risks, more often than not, the risk always pays off.
Dress: part of the Collection by Primaala, from PrimaalaJacket: thrifted from the closet of fellow plus blogger, Jessica Biffi and originally from Old Navy Glasses: thrifted from plus-blogger Amanda Richard's own Dame Frames
Tip #3) Don't be afraid to rock the crop!
I don't give a fuck what anyone tells you, not even Oprah, but rock the crop and rock it with pride. Each and every single person is different coming into their own when wearing a crop top. For me, I had always admired everyone's confident and didn't think I could do it for myself. That was until I decided to take the plunge and do it. I remember the day vividly - a girlfriend and I went out on a road trip and I gave no fucks about what small town Ontario had to think of my fat belly, out there on display. For me, wearing a crop top is not just fashionable but it is a political statement. It is a direct challenge to a society and you standing up to say: my body and my belly are worth it.
Crop top: thrifted from Stina Scott of Fatshion Peepshow, originally purchased from BooHooJacket: Vintage, purchased in a small-town Ontario thrift shop Skirt: H&M Glasses: thrifted from plus-blogger Amanda Richard's own Dame Frames
Tip #4) Don't be a basic bitch, wear colour!
Seriously though, I love colour. It may not be for you, but colour adds so much depth to any outfit. So much of my closet is colourful and whimsical. It's not all that often that I will buy things in beige, black, white or neutral tones. I know that to master those is something, but I feel like it's just not me. Better yet: colour blocking (with outfits) is so much fun. Now with that I will say this: use it, but don't abuse it. You will know when you've found the best colours, best colour matches and best colour blocking techniques that suit your body and your skin tone.
Tip #5) Wear something that makes a statement & leaves people talking
It has become known (amongst some) that I carry bags with sassy sayings or I'm always wearing buttons that make some kind of statement. Wearing a "statement" piece can be fairly easy and simple - as long as it leaves people talking about you and your look. Seems easy enough, so start small and work out to something big.
When you're trying to dress yourself (as difficult as it may be), just remember: style is owning it and feeling confident in what you're wearing. In 2016, find something that makes you feel like you own the world and remember this quote from Harry Winston, "People will stare, so make it worth their while!"